Buying the Perfect Ring
Us guys might see a ring as customary, but to girls it shows our commitment. They like it when their rings are admired by sisters of their yaya-hood. To them a diamond is love; frozen rock-solid in time.
You want the ring to be perfect right? But you don’t know where to start. The good news is that, just by noticing her favourites, you’ve already been schooled in her tastes.
Number 1: Pay attention!
What metal colour does she wear? Most women have a definite preference. If she loves white gold or platinum, don’t even look at a diamond mounted in a yellow gold. The best indication of her tastes is the jewellery she wears all the time, not items she only wears occasionally.
Number 2: Has She Told You Her Preferences?
Has she ever mentioned favourite styles, maybe pointing out rings when you’re shopping together? If she has not, go shopping. It is not difficult to steer yourselves towards the jewellery stores. But remember to not expose your cover – do this by saying something like you are looking for a new watch. If you have friends who recently became engaged ask her what she thinks of their ring.
Number 3: Her Hands
An elongated diamond, such as a marquise or oval, can make short fingers look more sleek – but be careful not to overdo the look or it could have the opposite effect. Wide bands usually make fingers appear even shorter than they are. Think proportional: women with long fingers can wear thicker bands, but a small band could get lost on large hands.
Number 4: The Right Shape & Setting
Round diamonds are the number one shape chosen by brides, but maybe not your bride. She might prefer an oval or pear-shaped stone, or a classic emerald cut diamond. Fancier shapes, such as hearts, are another option.
Number 5: Her Ring Size
Does she have rings that she wears on her engagement finger? Maybe a friend or family member could get hold of one of them long enough for you to have it sized. Of course, you’ll have to swear the messenger to secrecy. This is the essential step to keeping your proposition a surprise.
Number 6: Your Budget
The ideal amount to spend on an engagement ring is two or three month’s salary. However, this does vary from person to person, and obviously, is also influenced by your pay cheque. Remember, it’s not the size – it’s what it means.
Number 7: The Proposal
It’s every girl’s dream to get married, so do not do the normal proposal that every Tom, Dick and Harry would. Be different, not boring. And stay away from the cliché stuff. Also remember it’s about her: if she’s down to earth don’t go over the top with your proposal – you don’t want the girl to be shell-shocked once you’ve managed to blurt out those words.
Safe Purchase: Buy a loose stone
If you think you know which diamond shape she loves, buy a loose stone to show her when you ask the big question. The two of you can work together to find the perfect setting.